Two Weddings in One Month?

Q. My sister got engaged about two months before I did and immediately set her date for next September. I've always wanted to get married in September; it's also ideal for my fiancé, due to his work schedule. Because many of my guests will be the same as my sister's, is it asking too much of people to attend two weddings in one month?

A. Having your wedding so close to your sister's could present some practical problems. So first talk to your fiancé and see if the two of you can come up with another time. If September truly is the best month for you both, speak to your sister and parents, especially if they'll be contributing to the day's costs. You all might end up deciding that two weddings in the same month isn't a huge problem after all. However, it's incumbent on you (the second one to get engaged) to budge should things not pan out. There is one more option: a double wedding—once a very popular practice. This would allow both you and your sister to get married when you want to, and it would be easier for your guests. Plus, it would likely be less costly than two separate celebrations.

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Peggy Post