Using an In-House Planner?

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Q. I'm having a destination wedding at a venue that employs an in-house planner, and she hasn't consulted me on some decisions. How should I handle this?

A. It's possible that she thinks she's helping by not bothering you. Decide what you want input on—for example, the look of your tables—and leave other tasks—perhaps, where to set up the band—to her. Ask the planner to contact you before making final decisions on the items you care about most, and let her know that an e-mail is a welcome intrusion. (It also gives you a written record of decisions.) Be courteous and prompt in responding, to keep planning on track.

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