Once you get engaged, your mind will start spinning with a thousand plans. Before you do anything, though, it’s important sit down with your fiancé and work out exactly what kind of wedding you both want before you open the floor to input from your friends and family. “In the early stages, it’s easy to be swayed by everyone else’s opinion,” says wedding planner Sasha Souza. “You first need to figure out what your absolute must-haves and no-ways are so you can present a united front once everyone else starts to have their say,” she explains. You need to nail down the style (formal, casual, destination, etc.), the budget, the number of guests, and who is paying.